Surviving a Turbulent whirlpool

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

On my way to office today, I stopped at a signal. When I looked left and peered out of the window, I saw 5 children ranging from age 4- 12 approximately. With their clothes and faces smeared with dirt, they were almost huddled together. The 6 year old girl trying to neatly pin-up the hair of the little toddler; the 12 year old boy hungrily swallowing the white liquid of the vessel and shoving it to the 8 yr old while the third boy patiently awaited his turn. I wondered where their mother was? I wondered if there were all siblings? Was that small girl playing mother to the even smaller kid? How were they fending for themselves? If we were to exchange lives would I survive ...

It made me wonder about instances when I had to fight hard for something, deal with my own ordeals and surface from all those painful times... it felt like someone had thrown me into a turbulent whirlpool without teaching me how to swim.. but wait a minute I still managed to reach the shore and here I am! In such instances I was forced to stretch beyond my own self.

In order to move from one gravitational pull to another, we must become comfortable with being uncomfortable, face our ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts), WORMS (deap-seated unconcious beliefs that lie dormant in our conciousness and activates on the push of a button) and FEARs (False Evidence Appearing Real) and learn how to handle next level thinking. When you expand consiousness, expand spirtually, emotionally and psychologically, you automatically move into another vibration or gravitational pull. You will also bring along wth you for the ride a new set of ANTs, WORMS and FEARS whose sole purpose is to push or pull you to yet another level by making your current level content and hopefully uncomfortable.

Why do you think that managers give targets that are practically unachievable? Why do you think companies forecast unrealistic figures? Why do you think that before we start becoming complacent by the oh-so-good feeling we realize that we have to dive the approaching truck again? Only if we pass the testing phase will we be certified to be upgraded and if we fail the same we need to make amendments in our existing state.


Capt A.Nagaraj Subbarao said...

For starters, I think comparing yourself & street kids, is like comparing apples & oranges and you are doing the kids a diservice.

I also think that managers who raise the bar without equipping their subordinates, first, are asses.

The 'pygmalion effect' that you are talking about is all very well, when monitored carefully and subordinates are mentored/ coached, or else you are going to have burn outs and poor engagement.

It is probably the reason, why we have a leadership crisis, in almost all spheres of life include work life.

What you are saying is reflected in many a home, where parents want to live their aspirations through their children, resulting in raising the bar high without considering, if the kid has the requisite ability or not.

I'm no child psychologist, but can tell you that many a child is devastated by the pressure that is applied!It is also probably the reason, why you have dysfunctional kids!


Radhika said...

Everyone's problems work on many contexts, factors etc but its intensity, its fallouts can NEVER be judged by an observor unless he/she is directly the victim. It is also not known as to why some people are in certain contexts eg. Why people are born poor? Why are some gifted by rich family backgrounds? etc etc.. One can thus never compare one's adversity with another. But when one is thrown into an adverse situation their survival skills rise (sometimes much to their surprise).

It is an established fact that most people are not self-motivated. They need other factors to motivate them simultaneously (Thank God for that, as HR would not exist as a department!). As you mentioned that leadership must stretch a person in moderation and should not bank on extreme decisions. Of course! Every decision will have its fallouts if not treated in the right manner.

In today's world if children are not encouraged to walk that extra mile, they would not be able to survive the competition around them and their incompetency to match the others might make them dysfunctional! :)

Ashwini said...

It’s all in the mind. In all the situations and circumstances the mind will always think of the negative aspects first, all the bad things that can happen. Seldom does it happen that we see the positives first and start with the positive outlook. The results are coming out no matter how well we wrote the exams we will think What will happen if I don’t get this much marks. The mind needs to be re-programmed to think positively and have only positive thoughts. Although a bit difficult this can be achieved in course of time. Positive thinking will change your outlook towards the universe and create a pool of opportunities. As the article says due to the negative thinking the mind says “If we were to exchange lives would I survive ... “. "Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I ...shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning." - Mohandas Karamchand (Mahatma) Gandhi.
@ Radhika: Motivation is always external. They will always come from an external source. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”. That’s why as you pointed out you need HR’s and Motivational guru’s. Inspiration is internal. These two will give rise to passion which will not allow you to think of negatives and tackle all the situations and ultimately fulfill your goals.